Contributing to rape culture and devaluing women.

The classic phrase "boys will be boys" has given men a pass in America. It gives the pass to use sexual language to excuse indecent behavior. What is rape culture? Rape culture is seeing violence and sexual discrimination against women as the norm in society. It's thinking it's okay to consider a woman a second-class citizen and devaluing her sexuality as worthless. In history, our grandmother's mother's, sisters, and daughters have been introduced and brain washed into believing the propaganda of rape culture. We as women, we have been told to keep silent about our trauma for the sake of a man's reputation. Men are allowed a pass to have sex with many women in their lifetimes by any means necessary without repercussion.

It's time to put a stop to this and tell all men "My body does not belong to you. It is mine to do as a please. It's not yours to tell when to have sex and shame me for it. It is not your place to tell me when and where to have a baby. What gives you a right to steal my body from me based on what I wear? How I speak or who I am? What gives to the justification for calling a woman a hoe? Or a bitch and think under any circumstances it is, okay?"

Passing these traditions on to the sons is an ugly pass time. It's time to reintroduce a man what respecting a woman really is. It's time for women their foot down and say, "No sir it's not okay. It's rape culture to devalue my intelligence for your hurt ego. If you wouldn't want your mother or your sister to hear what talk about with your friends than probably shouldn't be said. "

A man can open a door for a woman without being old fashion or thinking it's out of style to be a gentleman. The point of being equal is not to devalue a man's identity or manhood, but rather help a man understand that loving a woman is about reaching their minds, respecting their hearts and not conquering them but being beside them as part of their team.

As a single woman, I view men differently. When they open a door for a woman, they expect something or nothing in return. I am watched as I struggle with a stroller, and I find more men showing me less kindness with a child. When my son is around, I see men look at me as if my value drops. As if every extra child a woman raises alone reduces her value. There is something wrong with it.

Yet, 3 years ago that same man would done anything to talk to me. My value was devalued at that point because I was their piece of ass. It is rape culture to think this way. I belong to not one but myself. Love is an equal partnership. Nobody is above.

A man's value should never go down based upon money or power. Yet this how we determine a real man. Men cannot cry without being judged or beaten in society. This too is part of rape culture. QUIT gender profiling us America. The days of white washing and the boys' clubs needs to come crashing down. It is not okay for men to shame a woman or control her body. Laws for rape victims needs to change. It's time to educate the mind in these backwards times. It's not okay to excuse "boys being boys." It is all part of the problem.